A Vegan Christmas Lunch



Cashew cheese with roasted garlic and smoked paprika from Veganissimo by Leigh Drew

Cashew cheese with roasted garlic and smoked paprika (from Veganissimo! by Leigh Drew)


Cashew cheese with roasted garlic and smoked paprika

Cashew cheese with roasted garlic and smoked paprika


Roasted pumpkin, fig and walnut salad

Roasted pumpkin, fig and walnut salad


Garden salad

Garden salad


Potato salad with caramalised red onions and red capsicum

Potato salad with caramalised red onions and red capsicum


green beans with pomegranate molasses dressing

green beans with pomegranate molasses dressing


Nut roast with lemon and garlic stuffing

Nut roast with lemon and garlic stuffing


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And, then, there was trifle…



Ally   :)

{Vegan MoFo} Wearing Pyjamas to the Farmers’ Market

My part of the world is home to many farmers’ markets.


This post highlights some of the local, vegan and gluten-free products (and produce) available at the Byron Bay farmers’ market.

On a recent visit, Tiny Vegan, 4 years old, decided to wear his pyjamas. Over his jeans. Who was I to cramp his style (or lack thereof!)? In my neck of the woods, PJs over jeans does not warrant a raised eyebrow or a second glance.


Each week, we purchase a large quantity of green leafy vegetables for salads and green smoothies – young kale (just $2 for a large bunch), coriander, basil, baby spinach leaves, cos (romaine) lettuce, tatsoi, watercress, mixed salad leaves.


We purchase Davidson Plum chilli sauce, raw macadamia nuts, and macadamia butter from a local macadamia grower. Davidson Plums are native to this part of Australia.

A local company sells soy-free tempeh in two varieties – fava bean and wakame, and chickpea.


Recently, we bought nut cheese and a packet of flaxseed and macadamia bread from a local raw food company. This raw ‘bread’ is delicious. I cut it into smaller squares, and packed it for a picnic. We topped the bread with hommus and homemade pesto.

The bread is made of organic flax seeds, macadamia nuts, spring onions, tomatoes, dates, olive oil, Italian herbs, and celtic sea salt.


I used the nut cheese in a pesto, and as a topping on homemade flax crackers. It contains organic macadamia nuts, nutritional yeast, lemon juice, smoked paprika and salt.


Sometimes we indulge in a raw dessert and a cup of locally-grown coffee. The avocado key lime pie (on left of plate) is particularly delectable. And if we call it second breakfast, rather than morning tea, the wearing of PJs is totally appropriate. :)

Tomorrow: A closer look at the fava bean and wakame tempeh.

Whale Watching at the most Easterly Point of Mainland Australia.

During the last weekend of the school holidays, our part of the world experienced glorious weather.

We went in search of adventure!

We packed our drink bottles, snacks and binoculars. We jumped into the car, and headed to Byron Bay.


We parked at Wategos Beach.


I put Little Baker on my back, and we set off into the Cape Byron State Conservation Area. This section is known to ‘locals’ as the Lighthouse Walk. It is also known as a great vantage point for whale watching!


The Arakwal people are the traditional custodians of Byron Bay.


Looking out to Julian Rocks

We spotted a pod of Bottlenose dolphins (you’ll just have to take my word for it! I only had a camera phone). In fact, it is common to observe dolphins near Wategos Beach throughout the year.


There are dozens of stairs on the steep, uphill walk. I did issue a couple of  reminders that I was carrying 13.5 kg (29 pounds) on my back.  In their exuberance, the boys ran ahead several times. I thought they were ‘peaking’ too early. :)


The most easterly point of the Australian mainland: a great place to spot whales.

The humpback whale watching season extends from 1 June to 30 November, along the east coast of Australia. The most easterly point of mainland Australia is a popular whale watching spot.

We didn’t see any whales on our way up to the lighthouse.


Ah, there it is! Just a few more stairs….. :)

Once we reached the ‘top’, we ate our snacks – homemade jam drop biscuits – then spent about half an hour looking for whales.

We spotted two individuals, both very far from the coastline. Rather, Mat spotted them (with the naked eye). He has always been very adept at spotting whales and dolphins. He can open a fridge and fail to see a jar of olives, but set him loose on the east coast of Australia, and he’ll be pointing out a whale in no time!


We weren’t fortunate enough to witness a whale breaching (ie. ‘leaping’ above the surface of the water). We saw a lot of ‘blowing’ (water spouting from the whale’s blowhole), and ‘slapping’ (flukes hitting the surface of the water).

We had a quick look inside the tiny museum located in the ground floor of the lighthouse.

The lighthouse was built in 1901, and is still operational today. The museum contains photos from the period that a whaling industry existed in Byron Bay (from 1954-1962).  My children were astonished to learn that whales were once slaughtered in this town.

We observed at least two more individual whales on our walk back down to Wategos Beach. Again, no breaching, but lots of slapping and blowing.



We also stopped to watch the dolphins again.  They were visible to the naked eye, only metres from surfers.

Where does your vegan family enjoy observing animals in nature?


{Cafe Review} Manna Haven, Byron Bay

Mat celebrated his birthday on Tuesday- he creeps ever closer to the big Four Zero!

Byron Bay

He wanted to celebrate the day by visiting one of the busiest tourist hot spots in our region at its busiest time of year – Byron Bay. Who was I to argue with that proposal?!

Despite the frenetic pace, rubbish-strewn streets and lack of adequate public amenities, I have a soft spot for the place. The beaches are truly special.

We arrived in Byron in time for a late lunch.

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We decided to visit Manna Haven, a not-for-profit vegetarian cafe run by the Byron Bay Seventh Day Adventist Church. We had heard whispers of a new vego cafe in Byron, and we were keen to check it out.

This was our family’s first visit to the cafe, but it certainly won’t be our last. I am looking forward to our next batch of visitors from the ‘Big Smoke’, so that we can share our great discovery with them.

Upon arrival, we were welcomed by a friendly staff member who informed us – upon seeing our trail of children – that the cafe had a children’s play corner.

As the boys began scrounging for treasures in the toy box, the same friendly staff member handed us a couple of  menus. We seated ourselves on a pew near our happily playing children and began examining the menu.

The menu features numerous vegan and gluten-free options. It also specifies if a meal is ‘low GI’, or ‘raw’ or contains a ‘superfood’.  My daughter was thrilled to discover that the cafe serves raw cheesecakes – a berry one, and a mango one. They also sell a vegan cheesecake made from Tofutti.

We decided to eat inside to avoid the hot sun. After placing our order, we moved to a long table with a cushion-strewn pew, and we plonked Little Baker into a high chair.

Our drinks arrived first.


Berry Blast Smoothie for the kids to share (raspberry, blueberry, strawberry and banana on soy milk). At Manna Haven, vegans have a choice of rice, almond and soy milks.

A chai latte made with Rooibos tea for me. It was decorated with a cinnamon stick, which provided a good five minutes of entertainment for the children! The drink was creamy and moreish, with a mild cinnamon flavour. I truly savoured each sip.

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Admittedly, our eyes were bigger than our bellies when we ordered, and the serves were very generous. Consequently, we were presented with copious amounts of fresh, vibrant food.

Firstly, a fruit salad with cashew cream for the kids. This appealing and colourful salad was devoured in no time. This is a fail-safe and kid-friendly option for us – our kids are fruit bats!

We also ordered several dishes from the Mains’ section of the Lunch Menu.

$13.20$14.70 (gf option)

$14.70 (gf option)

I  ordered a Big Burger. The menu describes it as ‘a large open burger with a grilled legume-based patty… Served with fresh salad, caramelised onions and a capsicum relish’. It also featured a generous amount of hummus. I chose the gluten-free option.  The bread was quite hard; I had difficulty cutting it but that did not detract in any way from my enjoyment of the meal.  The burger came with a mountain of raw salad vegetables. I was delighted to discover that the patty was one of the tastiest I have ever eaten. I shared this meal with Mini Chef.

Mat enjoyed Longevity Patties. I think that is an appropriate meal to have on one’s birthday! They are described on the menu as ‘walnut and brown rice patties served with roast capsicum relish, rocket and hummus’.  The patties are gluten-free. Mat also ordered Tri-Salad Plate – ‘a choice of three salads with a zesty dressing’. 



Mat’s Tri-Salad Plate consisted of:

Roast Vegetable Salad with quinoa, baby spinach and roasted pepitas. Gluten-free.

Purple Sunflower Slaw – purple cabbage, roast sunflower seeds, capsicum and baby spinach. Gluten-free.

Zestabouli – quinoa, barley, tomato, cucumber and fresh herbs.

The salads were scrumptious. My favourite was the Roast Vegetable Salad. I can’t resist a roasted vegetable!

I think our daughter’s meal was the largest.



She chose Mum’s Vegetable Lasagne, served with a choice of two salads – the Purple Sunflower Slaw and Roast Vegetable Salad. Mat helped her polish off this hearty lunch. According to the menu, the lasagne contains 7 vegetables.

Little Baker nibbled on vegetables and a chunk of vegie pattie – and an unbleached serviette! I promise, the patties were scrumptious and tasty and much more flavoursome than a serviette, even an unbleached one.

Suffice to say, there was no room for dessert! My daughter was very conflicted. She had been dreaming of raw berry cheesecake, but alas, she just couldn’t fit it in. You saw the size of her meal!


Our lunch at Manna Haven was a thoroughly enjoyable experience. The food is wholesome, tasty, vibrant and colourful – I think we ate every colour of the rainbow! All palates in our family were catered for. The meals are abundant in size and healthfulness.

It is a cafe that we will definitely return to. I don’t think my daughter has forgotten about the berry cheesecake! I am keen to try some of the other vegan (and gluten-free) delights – such as Moussaka, Vegetable Green Curry, and Baked Potato Stack – although it will be hard to go past the Big Burger.

I noticed a green smoothie on the drink menu. An early morning swim, and breakfast at Manna Haven is now on the agenda!

Manna Haven –

97 Jonson Street, Byron Bay, NSW

For opening hours and contact details, click here.


We spent a couple of hours on the beach in the early evening. The kids built 20 sandcastles, swam with their dad in the ocean, and were fascinated by a poor, washed up jelly fish. Little Baker played on the sand, and dipped his toes in the sea.

The weather was glorious. A holiday vibe blanketed the town, with holiday-makers, locals and lots of dogs enjoying the beach.    

Do you have a favourite beach side town or suburb? Divulge all!

Being Thankful: Guest Contributor at The Cook to Love Project

I am excited to announce that I am guest contributor at The Cook to Love Project !

I extend my gratitude to Laura for publishing my piece, Being Thankful.

In Being Thankful I discuss a simple method that my family uses to cultivate gratitude in our daily life.  I also share my efforts to live joyfully and positively – of striving to transform negativity.

May you feel inspired and uplifted!


‘My Family’ – constructed by my daughter, using play dough.

Visit The Cook to Love Project for inspirational articles and delicious recipes, like Spiced Sweet Potato Hummus (I made it for a picnic recently, and it is truly scrumptious).

And for those who are waiting for ‘F is for …..’ , I promise it will be here soon.


{Vegan Parenting} Raising Tiny Vegans

This is an abbreviated version of the first article I wrote about raising vegan children.

The original was published in the Spring 2007 edition of Vegan Voice magazine. At the time, my eldest child was just 3 1/2 years old. My son, 10 months.


While pregnant with my daughter, our first child, I eagerly searched the web and local library for information about vegan nutrition during pregnancy and lactation. I regularly referred to a couple of books on our bookshelf – ‘Becoming Vegan’ by Davis & Melina, and ‘Pregnancy, Children and the Vegan Diet’ by Michael Klaper – and I felt satisfied that I could meet the nutritional needs of my unborn baby and my expanding body.

Like many first-time pregnant women, I read constantly; books about birth, breastfeeding, foetal development, bonding and all manner of related topics.

But there was one topic I could not find enough information about in order to satisfy my curiosity – raising vegan children. I had accumulated sufficient information and resources about the nutritional aspects of veganism but I discovered a dearth of information about the social and practical aspects of raising vegan children.

I really felt that we were going against the grain. What would our lives be like as we strived to raise a vegan child? Were we tackling an impossible – or at the very least, difficult – undertaking?

I used the only reference point I knew: my own non-vegan childhood. I reflected on the countless birthday parties that I had attended, including those at fast food restaurants. I thought about Easter egg hunts with school friends, ice creams from the Ice Cream Van, lamington drives, leather ballet shoes, dissecting cows hearts in the name of ‘science’, and ‘sausage sizzle’ school fundraisers. It was enough to overwhelm me.

How on earth could we raise a vegan child against that backdrop of childhood experiences? I consoled myself with the fact that times had changed. Vegans and vegetarians were no longer as rare as during my childhood. I only first encountered the word ‘vegan’ when I was about 16 years old, and don’t recall having any childhood friends who were vegetarians or vegans.

While pregnant, I purchased a book titled Raising Vegan Children in a Non-Vegan World: A Complete Guide for Parents’ by Erin Pavlina, an American vegan mum. I enthusiastically read it from cover to cover, the only book that I could find on the topic.

While reading the section on birthday parties, I experienced a sense of anxiety and dread when I contemplated the number of parties that my daughter would be invited to during her childhood. How would she feel when I gave her a piece of home-made cake while all the other kids enjoyed the birthday cake? Would I be depriving her?

I had other concerns. How much baking of substitute birthday cakes would I end up doing over the course of my daughter’s childhood? Would I just end up dreading the arrival of each party invitation? How would I deal with my baking fatigue?

Early in my pregnancy I asked myself: ‘Could my partner and I –both vegans- raise vegetarian children’? Would it be OK for our (future) children to consume foods containing dairy and eggs at birthday parties and other ‘special’ events? Wouldn’t it make our life easier? and more importantly, wouldn’t it make their lives easier? The prospect never sat comfortably with me, however.

As someone who strives to avoid causing suffering to sentient beings and as an advocate of the health benefits of a vegan diet, I could not ignore this knowledge, and my convictions, when it came to raising our child.

I longed for information about Australian vegan families and their experiences. We knew a vegan couple with a 2 year old daughter, who were expecting their second child around the time that my daughter was due. I was excited at the prospect of our vegan babies growing into childhood friends. Sadly, the family moved interstate when my daughter was only weeks old.

What about the claim that raising vegan children is irresponsible, or even, unethical? Should vegans who are about to embark on parenthood even give this a moment’s thought?

I never considered that our intention to raise vegan children was in any way irresponsible or unethical. There are people who believe that it is and, unfortunately, some of them gain extensive media coverage.

Writing in The New York Times recently, author Nina Planck states: ‘I was once a vegan. But well before I became pregnant, I concluded that a vegan pregnancy was irresponsible. You cannot create and nourish a robust baby merely on foods from plants’.

Those vegan parents who experience exertion as they lift and carry their robust babies certainly beg to differ.

Planck is of the opinion that babies are ‘built from protein, calcium, cholesterol and fish oil’ and, therefore, believes that a vegan diet is ‘dangerous’ for breast-fed and weaned babies, and children.

A couple of years prior, another commentator attracted a great deal of media attention. Professor Lindsay Allen (of the US Agricultural Research Service, no less!) was quoted as saying ‘There’s absolutely no question that it’s unethical for parents to bring up their children as strict vegans’. She is also quoted as stating: ‘…when women avoid all animal foods, their babies are born small, they grow very slowly and they are developmentally retarded, possibly permanently’. In the same article, the UK Vegan Society dismisses Allen’s claims.

In ‘The Ethics of What We Eat’, Singer and Mason address the question, ‘Is It Unethical to Raise Vegan Children?’ Interestingly, Mason and Singer interviewed Professor Linsdsay Allen in order to understand why she was ‘rejecting well-accepted medical and scientific views’. Allen claimed that the reporter who interviewed and quoted her, left off the caveat: ‘unless they (vegan parents) take great care to know what they’re doing’. Allen told Singer and Mason that she was ‘not against veganism’, and the authors conclude that Allen does not dispute that ‘it is safe to be a vegan while pregnant and to raise your children as vegans’.

Professor Allen’s and Nina Planck’s comments have no bearing on how I choose to live my life and their opinions matter little to me. However, their anti-vegan comments received wide spread media coverage, and it is likely that they had the effect of negatively influencing some people’s beliefs about veganism.

A pregnant woman (who may already be feeling emotionally vulnerable) may feel anxious and distressed to read that vegan diets ‘could’ cause her to give birth to a small, slow growing and developmentally delayed baby.

So what do other commentators say about the ethics of vegan diets for children?

Singer and Mason cite the American Academy of Pediatrics as stating that ‘vegan diets can promote normal infant growth’. The American Dietetic Association* also maintains that a ‘well-planned’ vegan diet is ‘appropriate for all stages of the life cycle, including during pregnancy, lactation, infancy and childhood. Many would argue that a vegan diet is more than ‘appropriate’, and is in fact superior to the Standard Australian/American Diet (SAD).

Today, our vegan family consists of my partner and me, our spirited 3 1/2 year old daughter (who, incidentally, was a very robust baby) and our jovial 10 month old son.

Now that we are actually raising vegan children and not just reading about it, the thing that I crave most is a peer group of other Mums who I can debrief to, laugh with, support and commiserate with.

I would also love for my daughter to attend a vegan party that isn’t her own (or her brother’s).

My daughter has a vegan substitute – a homemade muffin or slice of cake – in lieu of birthday cake whenever she attends a children’s party. I’ve learned that the substitute has to be appealing, so that my daughter will be happy to ‘sacrifice’ the birthday cake, but not be too appealing or it may look more enticing to the other children than the birthday cake!

We were invited to a birthday party recently, and the birthday girl’s Mum had baked a vegan birthday cake. My daughter and I were the only vegans invited, and I appreciated the gesture immensely.

Our close friends are supportive and very accommodating of our veganism, which is the best you can hope for when you aren’t surrounded by vegan families.

When my daughter recently asked ‘Why do Nanny and Poppy eat eggs?’, I replied: ‘Some people like to eat eggs’. She answered ‘You have to tell them not to eat animals and eggs’. She said it with conviction, and would not let the issue drop until I promised that I would tell her grandparents not to eat animals and eggs anymore.

On another occasion, my daughter asked me why people eat eggs. I replied: ‘some people eat them because they like them and they don’t know that the chickens don’t like it’. She looked directly in to my eyes, and said ‘You have to tell them Mummy, OK? You have to tell people every day that the chickens don’t like it’. Oh, how it nearly broke my heart to hear it simplified in this way by an innocent, caring child. If only it was as simple as that.

There are times when I worry that she will feel different, or excluded, as she munches on her homemade cake. I am concerned about how she will assimilate the knowledge that some people she loves consume animals and animal products.

Sometimes at social gatherings with non-vegans, I feel like a hawk, watching my daughter and ensuring that she doesn’t reach for, or isn’t given, a cube of cheese or a chicken flavoured chip.

At a recent birthday party, the plate of vegie sausages had already been devoured when my daughter reached for a meat sausage. I grabbed it out of her tiny hand so quickly that the other parents must have thought I was a lunatic.

I sometimes dread the arrival of birthday party invitations.

Then, at other times, it all seems so simple: we don’t eat animals and we don’t consume products that are the result of animal suffering.

I sincerely hope that my children will always decide to be vegans. Naturally, if they decide, when they are older, to turn their backs on veganism, I will accept their decision. Like any other life decision that my children make – career path, political beliefs, etc. – my role as a parent is to support them, even if my own beliefs differ. I can help to lay the foundations of respect and concern for our fellow beings, to be a role model and to educate them.

Ultimately, my children will – and should – have autonomy over their own life path.

And I am hopeful. While playing in the bath with her toys the other day, I heard my daughter announce: ‘I don’t eat animals, I rescue animals’.

I genuinely hope that my children’s generation experiences a richer connection with the non-human animal world, characterised by greater empathy, compassion and respect.

* The American Dietetic Association is now known as the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. The Academy’s position has not changed.

Do you have a peer group of vegan parents to debrief with?

How do you survive non-vegan birthday parties?

How do you respond to comments that vegan parents are ‘unethical’ or ‘irresponsible’ for raising vegan children?


{Vegan Children} What should I tell my children about slaughterhouses?

This post is an extract of an article that I wrote in October 2009; it was published in the Dec 2009-Feb 2010 edition of Vegan Voice magazine.

When I wrote this article, my eldest child was 5, and my youngest (now 8 months) was just a twinkle in my eye!

‘Are there more meat eaters or vegans in the world’?

My daughter, 5,  posed this question recently. Oh, how I wish I could have answered ‘vegans, of course’!

She knows that some people eat chickens, cows and other non-human animals; that some people drink cows’ milk and eat eggs. But she has no idea of the scale of horrors that humanity inflicts on other beings. How could she? As an adult, I can barely comprehend it myself.

Like other vegans, I feel a great sense of sadness that billions of non-human animals suffer torment and misery at the hands of humans.

As a mother, it breaks my heart that my young children are growing up in a society that is largely indifferent to the suffering of non-human animals.

When I provided her with the irrefutable answer (‘meat eaters, unfortunately’), she asked the inevitable question: why?

My husband and I attempted to turn a complex issue in to a simple ‘5 year old’ answer, and still the explanation spanned many topics, such as history, culture, anthropology and politics.

Yet, the complexity of this question, and our attempt to answer it, paled in comparison to a question she asked me a few days later: how ‘food’ animals are killed. I was silent at first, weighing up whether to change the topic or lie to her. Instead, I provided her with the most toned down version I could manage without making it sound too innocuous and clinical. There was so much more that I could have said, but I couldn’t bring myself to do so.

I couldn’t tell her that the animals are filled with terror and fear as they watch their kin being killed, knowing that they are next. I couldn’t tell her that some animals are conscious when their throats are cut.

I feel sad that we live in a society where it is necessary for me to talk to my daughter about slaughterhouses and slit throats. Should I have lied, creating something more palatable for her sensitive, young ears? There is obviously a fine balance. I want my children to understand why their father and I have chosen veganism for our family, but I don’t want to burden them with distressing information that may traumatise them.

Parents of young vegan children can learn from the experience of Mary Eileen Finch. In her article, ‘Innocence Lost: Explaining Veganism to my Daughter’, Finch writes about the day that her 6 year old daughter Rebecca, a life vegan, discovered that some animals are a source of food for humans.

Rebecca was inadvertently exposed to a vegan pamphlet containing distressing photographs that her mother graphically describes as follows: ‘a butchered cow hang[s] from a hook with blood making a puddle on the floor… a sickly pig with a pus filled sore [lies] in his own filth while rats chew on his ears’. A sobbing Rebecca is incredulous ‘But why? Why would anyone want to eat them?’ She implores her mother, ‘Don’t they know it is hurting the animals?

Although Rebecca was aware that she ate different foods to most other people, no one had yet revealed to her that animals are raised for food. Finch laments, ‘I didn’t have the heart to tell an innocent child, someone who sheds tears over dead insects, that her beloved animal friends were potential meals’.

Conversely, Finch took a different approach with her son, Rebecca’s younger brother: ‘I began early on to mention to him that to some, animals are food. As a result he has never had a world shattering experience to upset him’.

I have avoided exposing my children to the types of images that Rebecca saw, as I fear that they would be distressed and horrified. I do not want them to see images of dismembered bodies when they close their eyes at night. This knowledge is a heavy burden for adult vegans to carry, undoubtedly the tiny minds of vegan children would be crushed under its weight.

Although I talk to my children about the health benefits of fruits, vegetables, legumes, nuts and whole grains, I make no secret of the fact that we have chosen veganism for our family predominantly for animal rights reasons.

In the article ‘Mummy, Why Don’t We Eat Meat’?, clinical psychologist Dr. Debbie Glasser argues that parents should ‘develop their own way of explaining veganism to their kids’, with a focus on ‘positive examples’ rather thanhorror stories’.

Glasser comments that ‘a very sensitive child might be easily overwhelmed by a detailed explanation of where hamburgers come from’. She also suggests that ‘it might be best to stick with simpler explanations unless your child probes for more information’. A simple explanation could include the following:  ‘it’s respectful to the animals we love’. She also advocates sharing your motivations with your children by, for example, telling them that you don’t want to eat animals.

When my daughter was 2 years old, her father and I began to talk to her about veganism in simplistic terms. We told her that we didn’t eat eggs because ‘the chickens don’t like it when we take their eggs’. We explained that beef, chicken, and other ‘meats’ were dead animals. We told her that mummy cows made milk for their own babies, not for people.

Naturally, she became aware that many of our family members and friends ate non-vegan foods. To explain this, we basically told her that people who eat animals and animal products do not know that the animals are unhappy with the way humans treat them. I didn’t have the heart to tell her otherwise.

She had a simple solution: Inform our family and friends that animals suffer and do not want to be eaten and, once equipped with this knowledge, they would all become vegans. Oh, if only it were that simple.

When my daughter questions me about veganism or animal rights issues I aim to be honest, within the boundary of an age-appropriate response. I tend to err on the side of brevity, and wait for her to ask further questions or seek clarification.

I am filled with apprehension at the thought of informing my children that many (most?) people are indifferent to the suffering of non-human animals.

When is the right time to tell my children that the deliberate killing of a lamb is not worthy of sorrow in our society? How should I reveal that dairy cows are robbed of their newborn calves because a capitalist economy prizes their milk not their sentience? How can I even begin to explain the motivations of people who shoot kangaroos and kill tiny joeys by stomping on their necks?  Why would I want to inflict this knowledge on young children?  I don’t know if I can help them to comprehend these horrors when I cannot even understand them myself.

My youngest child, 7 months, is blissfully ignorant to the horrors of the world. He loves a game or a song, and I revel in the fact that the world is a nurturing place for him, where he is loved and adored by his older siblings, parents and extended family. He squeals with excitement when he sees my parents’ large dog, eagerly crawling after him while attempting to engage with him.  One day, my son will learn about humanity’s despicable treatment of non-human animals, and that saddens me immensely. But for now, he explores the world with wonder in his eyes.

I use every opportunity I can to normalise veganism for my children. If we meet someone who is a vegan (or a vegetarian), I make a point of enthusiastically announcing the fact to my children.

Recently, we encountered vegan graffiti. The statement: ‘Don’t Eat Animals’ was written in black marker on the playground equipment that my kids were playing on. This was accompanied by a simple drawing of a pig’s face and the plea: ‘Don’t eat me’. I brought it to my daughter’s attention and read the words to her. Soon after, I saw her pointing it out to her (non-vegan) friend. She appeared to be quite animated and excited. I hope she realises that there are lots of people out there who believe that it is wrong to eat animals.

Maybe, not too far in the future, a 5 year old girl will ask her parents if there are more meat eaters or vegans in the world. And her parents will answer irrefutably ‘vegans!’……..

Well, one can have hope.

What have you told your vegan kids about the deaths of animals that are raised for food? Have you told them about slaughterhouses? Please share your experiences in the comments section.

{Vegan Children} Promoting vegan values to children.

I have been sharing my life with tiny vegans for 8 years. My daughter is the precious soul who transformed me into a parent and, more specifically, a vegan parent.

I am also a parent to three beautiful, home-birthed boys – aged 6, 3 and 8 months.

My parenting is influenced by a commitment to attachment parenting principles and an unwavering commitment to a vegan ethos.

I believe strongly that extended breastfeeding*  and the provision of vibrant and healthy plant-based foods is a vital facet of vegan parenting – ensuring that our tiny vegans reach their full physical and cognitive potential.

However, food is only the ‘tip of the iceberg’. Vegan parenting involves promoting a vegan philosophy to my children; instilling them with values that they will embrace and feel ownership of.

A concern that some vegan parents share is whether their children will commit to veganism in the long-term.

How can we assist our children to embrace vegan values in their daily lives? How can we  encourage them to maintain a commitment to vegan principles that extends beyond childhood?

What are ‘vegan values’?  

Each vegan parent will have a different answer to this question. Vegan values that we seek to promote include:

  • Compassion and empathy for human and non-human animals;
  • A recognition that non-human animals have a right to exist for their own purposes; they do not exist  for human use or amusement;
  • Non-human animals, and their products of reproduction and fertility (ie. eggs, lactation), are not sources of food for humans;
  • Food and sustenance produced by non-human animals for their own use and survival (eg. honey, in the case of bees) are not intended as sources of food for humans.

In order to promote these values to our children, Mat and I seek to do the following (in an age-appropriate context):

  • Actively teach and role-model a respect and reverence for non-human animals and the natural world;
  • Promote and encourage an interest in the diversity and beauty of life;
  • Participate in campaigns run by organisations that advocate for the rights of non-human animals;
  • Refrain from the use of language or expressions that denigrate non-human animals (eg. ‘She eats like a pig’.);
  • Teach our children about the interconnectedness of Earth’s inhabitants.

We have also chosen to enrol our  school-aged children in an independent school that promotes a Neo-humanist ethic.  One of the tenets of Neo-humanist education is: ‘to promote an awareness of ecology in its broader sense, that is, the realisation of the inter-relatedness of all things, and to encourage respect and care for all living beings’.**

Like many 3 year old children, my son is fascinated by spiders and insects. Mat and I nurture our son’s natural curiosity and interest, encouraging him to be gentle and considerate. These interactions provide an opportunity to educate him about the diversity of living beings, while fostering an empathy and compassion that is transferrable to other non-human animals, and humans. Today he fell in love with a dying christmas beetle that he found in our backyard.

Young children observe and emulate their parent’s behaviour and actions.  We are their earliest role models.  Before I had children, I often avoided mentioning my veganism to people. But now, I recognise that I am a role model for my children. I do not want them to feel that their veganism should be a secret. I am proud to be a vegan. I want them to be proud of the fact that they are not contributing to the suffering of non-human animals.

Obviously, Mat and I have chosen veganism for our children, much in the same way that some parents choose to raise their children with a Catholic or a Buddhist ethic.  Parents raise their own children in concert with their deeply held values and belief systems.  My children may choose not to embrace those values once they reach adolescence or adulthood. That is their right as autonomous beings.  Young people may rebel against the values of their parents – this is a perfectly normal and developmentally appropriate occurrence.

Parents of vegan children may find that this rebellion manifests itself in a rejection of vegan principles. However, as they mature, young people may reclaim the values and belief systems that their parents instilled in them, and this could lead to a reclaiming of veganism.

Naturally, there are young people who would never consider turning their back on veganism; they would not eat an animal any more than they would eat the leg of a table!

My children do not regard animals as food. My eldest children are aware that meat is a dead animal. They possess affection for animals, and have no desire to contribute to their suffering.  Do they feel as though they are missing out on anything? I don’t believe so.

We have vegetarian friends and vegan friends. My children’s aunty- my precious sister- is vegan. My kids attend a vegetarian school. We eat delicious food and treats. We have a beautiful circle of  non-vegan friends who are supportive of our veganism. We are truly blessed. It makes my heart sing that my daughter’s best friend is vegan!  Not eating animals is normal for my children.

Who knows what the future holds.

For now, I am enjoying the fact that my children are happy, healthy and happy to be vegan.

* By extended breastfeeding, I refer to breastfeeding a child up to 2 years of age and beyond.

** Quote obtained from the web site of my children’s primary school.

How do you promote vegan values to your children? Please share your experiences. I look forward to hearing from you!


Taking a Leap.

Today is Monday. But instead of heading off to work, Mat will be spending the day at home* with me and our youngest boys.  He will do the same tomorrow, and the day after….and the day after…

No, he isn’t on annual leave. He is unemployed.

For many people, this situation would be frightening and anxiety provoking.  For us, it is a relief.

Recently, we were faced with a huge decision – for Mat to continue working in a job that was crushing his soul and igniting anxiety, or to turn his back on a career that had been important to him for many years and was our main source of income.

Every now and then, an opportunity presents itself- an opportunity to re-evaluate the direction that our lives are heading in. This was our time.  We could continue on the well-worn path, or we could break free and forge our own path.  We chose the latter.

Where will we be in 3 months? I’m not sure, but one thing is certain: We won’t be on the street, and our kids won’t be hungry (which is something, sadly, that millions of people can’t say).

On Friday, I received an email from a beautiful friend that I have not been in contact with for many months. She had heard about Mat’s resignation.

‘What are you and Mat going to be up to now? Hmmm? I’m deeply interested to hear your thoughts on life, love and this crazy beautiful planet. A tip from me: whatever it is, do it now. Take the leap.

Love, Sienna’

I was stunned.

Only minutes earlier, Mat and I had been discussing an idea, a plan that has been taking shape in our hearts and minds over the past few days.  Is my friend psychic? How did she know that I needed to read the words: take the leap.

Many of us are too scared to take a leap. We are wary of change, and the great unknown.  It can be easy – and safe –  to stay on the well-worn track, just doing what we have always done. Or what has always been expected of us.

I see Mat’s resignation as a catalyst for us to re-evaluate our life journey. Where are we headed? Who do we want to be? What kind of life do we want to provide for our children?

Mat and I are open to opportunity and adventure. It feels amazing!

Just 3 weeks ago,  we could not have envisaged that we would have the courage to take a leap into the unknown.

Life will be slower and calmer. Our children will get more of him. We are feeling more connected than we have in months. We prioritised Mat’s mental health and sense of contentment over career advancement and money. It is a wonderful feeling!

We took a leap together.  I know we will be brave enough to take the next one.


* We might stay at home, or we might take the kids to a park, or the library. But one thing is certain – we will appreciate and savour the time we spend together.




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